Almost everybody today, has that one person they're madly in love with, that one person they give their all. And that one person who never returns in kind. It's the new type of relationship. One that has no definition. But does it make it any less of a love than others? No, let's read why.
Our girl is Esha, and that one person in her life was Niketan. They'd been friends for over five years. For Esha, more than just friends ever since she could remember. Best friends they were. The world thought, no guy and a girl can be only friends, not like them at least! They had no common friends. And yet, week after week they hung out, never bored in the other's company. Movies and bowling and cafes, they never ran out of things to talk and to do.
Niketan was her world, bright and shiny. And she, his Google. He was her car expert, she, his navigator. He was her hero, she, his only link to the serious world. She relied on his experience, he on her knowledge. Together, they explored all that there is to growing up, good things and bad. Their first ice candy in the rain, that bhutta by the lake, that first ciggie and the bottle of beer. He led her into this world of wonder, with patience and care.
But things change. Yes, never can a girl and a guy be just friends. Try as one may, it never really works. Slowly but gradually, their friendship was more than just platonic. One kiss led to another and then some more. They grew up. He had an awesome job, she still trying to get her grip on hers. Yet, they remained constant. But can one truly beat the change?
Not so easy. New people, new joys bring new problems. Esha thought, he's there for her always, then why push for a commitment. So she never did. But then, he was there less and less, yet she stood her ground, her faith in him rock solid. She couldn't see it, still shrouded in a cloud of joy over simply being his. Was he thinking the same? Did Niketan think of her as often as she thought of him? Their daily adventures turned weekly, then monthly. He wasn't there for her anymore. She'd crib and fight and argue, pushing him further away.
One day, she stopped, no more drama she decided. I'll be there for him, no matter what. I'll accept all that he has to give. I'll give him my all, still, and then he'll realize he loves me and needs me too.
Did he?
The truth is, relationships that have no clear definition don't always work. They usually end in a massacre of emotions and feelings for one of the two. It need not always be the girl, the roles can be reversed. But the end is almost always the same. Heartbreak and loss of direction. Incompleteness and fear.
But do you know what's the worst thing from it all? The inability to share the grief with anybody, even the close friends. Relationships that lack definition are considered taboo. Almost all the friends and family, would tell you against it if they knew. So, you never tell them. And when it's over, you have no one. Because that one person who knew it all, is the one who walked away.
So, how do we get over it? We hope, we live, and we believe, that someday, things will be different, that someday, we will be the person who is loved and adored. And that day, is the beginning of a happily ever after. So, we believe.
*Esha and Niketan are real people, different names.
Our girl is Esha, and that one person in her life was Niketan. They'd been friends for over five years. For Esha, more than just friends ever since she could remember. Best friends they were. The world thought, no guy and a girl can be only friends, not like them at least! They had no common friends. And yet, week after week they hung out, never bored in the other's company. Movies and bowling and cafes, they never ran out of things to talk and to do.
Niketan was her world, bright and shiny. And she, his Google. He was her car expert, she, his navigator. He was her hero, she, his only link to the serious world. She relied on his experience, he on her knowledge. Together, they explored all that there is to growing up, good things and bad. Their first ice candy in the rain, that bhutta by the lake, that first ciggie and the bottle of beer. He led her into this world of wonder, with patience and care.
But things change. Yes, never can a girl and a guy be just friends. Try as one may, it never really works. Slowly but gradually, their friendship was more than just platonic. One kiss led to another and then some more. They grew up. He had an awesome job, she still trying to get her grip on hers. Yet, they remained constant. But can one truly beat the change?
Not so easy. New people, new joys bring new problems. Esha thought, he's there for her always, then why push for a commitment. So she never did. But then, he was there less and less, yet she stood her ground, her faith in him rock solid. She couldn't see it, still shrouded in a cloud of joy over simply being his. Was he thinking the same? Did Niketan think of her as often as she thought of him? Their daily adventures turned weekly, then monthly. He wasn't there for her anymore. She'd crib and fight and argue, pushing him further away.
One day, she stopped, no more drama she decided. I'll be there for him, no matter what. I'll accept all that he has to give. I'll give him my all, still, and then he'll realize he loves me and needs me too.
Did he?
The truth is, relationships that have no clear definition don't always work. They usually end in a massacre of emotions and feelings for one of the two. It need not always be the girl, the roles can be reversed. But the end is almost always the same. Heartbreak and loss of direction. Incompleteness and fear.
But do you know what's the worst thing from it all? The inability to share the grief with anybody, even the close friends. Relationships that lack definition are considered taboo. Almost all the friends and family, would tell you against it if they knew. So, you never tell them. And when it's over, you have no one. Because that one person who knew it all, is the one who walked away.
So, how do we get over it? We hope, we live, and we believe, that someday, things will be different, that someday, we will be the person who is loved and adored. And that day, is the beginning of a happily ever after. So, we believe.
*Esha and Niketan are real people, different names.
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